A great quote on enlightened relationships from Eckhart Tolle in "The Power of Now", p. 128:

"The greatest catalyst for change in a relationship is complete acceptance of your partners as he or she is, without needing to judge or change them in any way.. That Immediately takes you beyond ego. All mind games and all addictive clinging are then over. There are no victims and no perpetrators anymore, no accuser and accused. This is also the end of all codependency, of being drawn into somebody else's unconscious pattern and thereby enabling it to continue. You will then either separate - in love - or move more deeply into the Now together - into Being. Can it be that simple? Yes, it is that simple."

Happy Hearts Day everyone! xo

Thanks to the Onion for today's Yuck:

Valentine's Day 2009

Relationship Tips

FEBRUARY 6, 2009 | ISSUE 45•07
Many couples find their relationships stuck in a rut after they've been together for a while. Here are some ways to rekindle the fires of love:

• Remember: Fragrant roses, moonlit walks, and candlelight dinners are all wonderful ways to avoid addressing the real problems in your marriage
  Check out the rest of the list at The Onion:
  http://www.theonion.com/content/tips/relationship_tips
  
  

Here's a very interesting OpEd piece in today's New York Times, entitled "Till Children do us part". It discusses the impact that that children have on a marriage, and notes that parents spend significantly more time with their kids, and less time with each other, than in years past. My favorite quote from the piece...perhaps one to take to heart..."the airline warning to put on your own oxygen mask before you place one on your child also holds true for marriage"

Some ways to give back and simultaneously give to your sweetie this Valentine's Day:


1. Invest in a poor entrepreneur and get your lover some chocolate to boot, at Microplace.

2. 14 Charitable ways to celebrate Valentine's Day.

The Costco Magazine ("Costco Connection") did a nice feature on Lambs on Love for their most recent Feb 2009 Issue. Check it out here.